Using the Change Curve to Build Resilience in Times of Unacceptable Change

There are times when change is not something we should simply accept, when it goes against our values, threatens our safety, or causes harm to individuals or communities. In moments like these, passive acceptance isn’t the answer, resistance is.

The Change Curve is often used to describe how we adjust to life’s inevitable shifts, but what happens when the change we’re facing is something we fundamentally disagree with or find deeply distressing? How do we move through the emotional stages of change while also standing firm in our beliefs and taking meaningful action?

Here’s how we can use the Change Curve as a tool for resilience, rather than just acceptance, when facing difficult global or societal shifts.

Shock & Denial: “This can’t be happening.”

When we first encounter major negative change, whether in the world, in our communities, or in our personal lives, it can feel unreal, overwhelming, or even paralysing. We might try to avoid the news, dismiss its impact, or struggle to process what’s happening.

How to Build Resistance & Resilience in This Stage:

• Acknowledge the reality of the situation. Avoiding it won’t make it go away.

• Educate yourself, seek reliable information to understand the full picture.

• Recognise the need for action, even if you don’t yet know what that action is.

• Ground yourself, breathe, connect with your body, and take stock of your emotions before reacting impulsively.

Mantra for this stage: “I see this change clearly, and I am choosing awareness over avoidance.”

Resistance & Frustration: “This is unacceptable.”

As reality sets in, frustration, anger, grief, or helplessness can take hold. This is where we feel the emotional weight of change, and it can lead to burnout or despair if we’re not careful.

How to Build Resistance & Resilience in This Stage:

• Let yourself feel the emotions. Anger, sadness, frustration—all of these are valid and important responses. Suppressing them won’t help in the long run.

• Channel frustration into constructive action. This could be activism, community work, speaking out, or supporting those affected.

• Find like-minded people. Connection and collective action prevent isolation and strengthen resilience.

• Set boundaries with media consumption. Being informed is vital, but constant exposure to distressing news can make you feel powerless.

Mantra for this stage: “I acknowledge my emotions, and I choose to turn frustration into fuel for action.”

Exploration & Adaptation: “What can I do about this?”

At this stage, we start to reclaim agency. The emotions of shock and resistance don’t disappear, but they become fuel for thoughtful action and strategic resistance.

How to Build Resistance & Resilience in This Stage:

• Identify your sphere of influence. You don’t have to change the world overnight, start where you can make an impact.

• Develop a plan. Small, consistent actions are more powerful than all-or-nothing thinking.

• Practice radical self-care. Resisting harmful change is a long game, and you need to stay strong for the journey.

• Learn from history. Those who came before us faced immense challenges, what strategies did they use? What lessons can we apply?

Mantra for this stage: “I am not powerless. I can make a difference in ways that align with my strengths and values.”

Integration & Sustained Resistance: “This is how I keep going.”

At this stage, we accept that the challenge exists, but we do not accept defeat. We find ways to sustain our energy, stay informed without burning out, and commit to long-term change.

How to Build Resistance & Resilience in This Stage:

• Develop habits of activism and advocacy. Whether it’s speaking out, volunteering, or educating others, build sustainable routines.

• Celebrate small wins. Change happens slowly, and acknowledging progress keeps momentum alive.

• Hold onto hope. Even in dark times, history shows that change is possible when enough people refuse to accept injustice.

• Teach others. The more people who understand how to resist harmful change, the stronger the movement becomes.

Mantra for this stage: “I am committed to the long journey of change, and I will sustain my energy wisely.”

Navigating Change with Strength & Purpose

The Change Curve isn’t just about acceptance, it’s about recognising where we are emotionally so we can respond with clarity rather than react out of fear or despair.

Key reminders for building resilience against harmful change:

• Feeling overwhelmed is natural, pause, then decide how to move forward.

• Anger and frustration are valid, but let them guide you, not consume you.

• Taking action, even in small ways, matters.

• You are not alone. Find your people, build your network, and strengthen each other.

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You are more powerful than you know. And when enough people move through the Change Curve with intention, resistance becomes unstoppable.

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